See which group of traits best describes your relationship. Is it infatuation or the real thing?

Questions to Ask	It's Infatuation (Lust)	It's Love
What attracts you most?	Physical; What responds to the 5 senses	The total personality: The intellectual, emotional, social, spiritual, moral and physical being.
How did the romance start?	Fast (hours or days)	Slowly (months or years); Took time to grow
What effect does the romance have on your personality?	Highs and lows	Constructive, you're a better person
How does it end?	Fast, unless the couple has been sexually active	Slowly, takes a long time. You may never be quite the same
How do you view each other?	You live in a one-person world. You see the other as faultless, or idealize him or her	You add the new relationship to former ones. You are more realistic, admitting others' faults, but love them anyway
What does distance or periods of long separation do to the relationships	Creates stress; Can wither away, break up	Survives; may even grow stronger. Committed to working through the distance
How do quarrels affect the romance?	They get more frequent, more severe and will kill the romance	When quarrels happen, the couple tries to work out disagreements
How do you refer to your relationship?	I/me/my; He/him/his; She/her/hers. Little feeing of oneness.	We/us/our, feel and think as a pair; togetherness
What is you ego response to the other?	Mainly selfish, restrictive; "What does this do for me?"	Mainly unselfish; concerned equally for the other
What is the overall attitude?	Attitude of taking	Attitude of sharing, giving
What is the effect of jealousy?	More frequent, more possessive	Less frequent, has a base of trust