Dr. Laura
Dr. Laura Schlessinger is the top female radio personality in America, and a licensed marriage, family and child counselor. Dr. Laura's internationally syndicated radio show airs on more than 450 stations in the U.S. and is heard by 18 million listeners each week.
Visit her at www.drlaura.com
Take Dr. Laura's "Is It Love?" Test
Are you ready to take Dr. Laura's "Is It Love" test? After taking this test, you'll quickly know whether your relationship has a good chance of growing into a long-lasting one, and maybe even marriage. Answer each question with "yes" or "no" and then check your score in the categories below. Afterwards, have your partner take the test to see how you compare. Most importantly, be honest! Your future happiness depends on it.
- Can you say there is no jealousy in your relationship?
- Is your relationship free of drug and alcohol abuse?
- Can you say you've never been asked to compromise your moral values?
- Do you enjoy each other's family and friends?
- Have you discussed your long-term goals for faith, family and career in detail?
- Do you have complete confidence in each other?
- Has experience shown him/her to always be truthful and open with you?
- Does your partner always follow through on promises and commitments?
- Do you talk openly and easily with each other about everything?
- Do you both listen carefully to one another and try to understand each other's point of view?
- Do you practice the same faith by praying and going to church together regularly?
- Do you both agree that marriage is forever?
- Do you refrain from using manipulation or blackmail to get your own way?
- Do you like spending time together doing different activities?
- When you have a disagreement or the going gets tough, do both of you respond respectfully with patience and understanding?
- Have your family and friends told you they approve of your relationship?
- Do you limit your physical relationship to holding hands and simple kisses?
- Have you seen each other during good times and bad? (Virtues shine during adversity. Never rush into marriage-you'll miss critical signs of good/bad character traits.)
- Do you both stay away from pornographic magazines, videos, Internet, etc?
- If your future spouse had a serious accident that maimed or disfigured him/her for life, would your love remain strong? Could you love survive with physical expression?
- Do you each dress, speak and act modestly?
- Can you admit your own shortcomings and discuss them openly?
- Are you both generous in making sacrifices for others/
- Does your sweetheart already have the qualities needed to be a super spouse and a wonderful parent for your children?
- Are you willing to give up power and let your loved one control some of the important decisions and circumstances? (True love means frequently surrendering your will to meet your loved one's needs and wishes without violating your moral values).
Scoring: Give yourself 1 point for each "yes" answer.
(Her score ___ His score ____)
22-25 pts. - "Solid as a Rock!"…It's True Love! Congratulations on a very strong relationship.
19-21 pts. - "Looking Good"…Your relationship has good potential. With a little work, you can become "Solid as a Rock".
15-18 pts. - "Warning Signals!"…It might be "infatuation." Work on the "No's." Take the test again in six months and again in 12 months. Hopefully your score will improve and your relationship will grow. If your relationship doesn't greatly improve within a year, you should consider ending it.
Below 15 pts. - "Red Alert!" …Sorry, this may be painful to hear, but it's probably time to say goodbye. It's either blind infatuation or there are other serious problems. If you're already married, don't give up-get good marriage counseling ASAP.
